"Catch Him & Keep Him" by Christian Carter

"Catch Him & Keep Him" by Christian Carter is an insightful book. It is written by a man and really takes you on a journey into how man "really" think. What I learned from this book is priceless. So much so that you can even click on the link of the book cover and purchase this book.

So on to what I learned from this book. Oh first let me tell you some of the chapter names:

Inside the Mind of a Man,
Men and Relationships,
The Biggest Mistakes Women Make With Their Emotions,
How Men and Women are different and What To Do About It, and
How To Attract Men.

The first thing I learned from this book (although too late for my last relationship) is that a man will start feeling "unsure" about a relationship, or not like something a woman is doing, but he doesn't say anything. At least, not until he's already made up in his mind that the relationship isn't working, and he wants to leave. AMEN TO THAT CHRISTIAN!!

Men have been practicing their whole lives to hide their "inner world." They have been conditioned to hide or ignore their emotions for most of their lives.

Most men don't have an idea of what a perfect long-term relationship looks like - at least not one that would make sense to a woman. Most men are literally making it up as they go along.

The rarest man of all is a man who has his act together, know what kid of relationship he wants...and is ready and willing to commit to a relationship or marriage now, in the present moment.

There are some important truths to understand men better (these are also true in life too).
Truth #1 Changing your perspective on someone is the best way to help them change their perspective on you.
Truth #2 Nothing will change in your life until you change YOUR OWN BEHAVIOR
Truth #e The ONLY way to actually change your behavior is a real, authentic, and lasting way is to change your Mindset or Perspective. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND, AND YOU'LL BE UNDERSTOOD. You, and only you, are responsible for getting yourself their first so you can be a great partner. (So it is all about me working on me!!)

There are 3 steps to help you better "connect" with the man you are with. Step 2 is the Understanding Stage so ask yourself 1) what is important to them? 2) What do THEY like and dislike? 3) What do they want from me? For steps 1 and 3... get the book!

Seeking others' approval because you have an intense need for them to understand you and make you think and feel "good enough" or OK is a textbook sign of emotional immaturity (and painfully unattractive)

For the men who what to better understand women Mr. Carter recommends "The Way Of The Superior Man" by David Deida.